It’s Okay to be Single

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By Faith MagbanuaFebruary 14th, 2018

Ah, the joy of being in a relationship, especially in this time of year- The dreaded Valentine's day.  However, amidst all the dilemma that every single person in this world has been experiencing, be it from being single or "staying" single, there are a few things that we must consider why single people has it way better that people who are in a relationship.

If ever you are wondering why you're on your 20 something and is still single, there is a deeper meaning behind that, especially to us Christian people.

1.        You are not yet ready to be in a relationship

Whether we like it or not, that one liner says it all.  Not everyone is very much capable of loving someone so hard that they forget their priorities.  Some people are just flat-out not ready yet. As my Theatre Arts, professor said.  " If you can take care of a plant and a pet without the plant dying and the pet getting sick, then I suppose you're ready to be in a relationship." 

Lo and behold, I bought a cactus right-away, a few days after the poor succulent died. 

And yes, I did water it (minimal watering), put it in a nice pot, air it and I also have a pet that time (until now) however, as the weeks pass, I slowly forgot that I have a responsibility to "water" the plant.

I just remembered it when my brother told me that the poor thing has withered away.

Point taken, I am not ready yet, but the message behind that occurrence is how much are we willing to sacrifice to be in a relationship? 

The Bible has a lot of verses about that "Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up," I Corinthians 13:4

Being in a relationship is like my responsibility to take care of my pet and my plant. However, I was still a college student at that time, so taking care of my school work, my thesis and now a plant and a pet dog has gotten my hands so full. I have to drop some things to be able to concentrate to another task. 

Relationship takes commitment, it won't work if only one person is willing to sacrifice something.  Both parties must be willing to take full on responsibility.

2.        God is teaching you something

If you are in your age where people keep on pressuring you to get a boyfriend, girlfriend or a spouse, well you are in an era where their comments will either make you or break you.

However, to be perfectly honest, none of their opinions matter.  Only one opinion matters and that is God's.

As Philippians 4:6, says "Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God."

God wants us to keep on praying for that perfect person that He has for us.  We might not see that person this year or next year, but do not feel bad about being single.  God has a lot more things for you.

Maybe, God wants you to explore the world first, to travel to do things that you've never done before.

To be independent, to be financially ready or maybe God wants you to step out of your comfort zone and not to rely on others.

#Strong independentwoman / #Strongindependentman

Whatever it is that God is teaching you, only you can figure it out.  How?  Read His word, attend church service, serve Him, and always pray. 

Have you ever wonder that maybe God wants you to be the better version of yourself for His glory?  Maybe you haven't spread out your wings yet that is why God still wants you to learn how to fly.

Isaiah 40:31

    But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

 

3.        Someone is praying for you

Yes, that is not just a possibility, it is a fact. The probability of someone praying for you might be low (at least for some people) but fret not! Someone is praying for you. 

Imagine this, there are 7.5 billion people in this world and one of them is yours.  That being is your person.  God's person for you.

So if ever you feel like being all sappy about you being single, think of all the possibilities.  That someone, somewhere is praying for you, is doing his or her best to enjoy his ir her single life too because that person, will be your person soon.  In God's perfect time. 

In conclusion to that:

Love chooses no age, no race and no time.  God loves us first and formost, so being single is not a bad thing.  Even the Lord Jesus Christ remained single and is still single up till now and forever. I am not saying that be single forever, but being single in this time is a great blessing.  It means that you have a lot of time to love God, your family, your friends and yourself. 

You have a lot of time to contemplate on things, to be the best version of yourself not just for anyone, but for God.

Psalms 73:26  "My flesh and my heart faileth: but God is the strength of my heart, and my portion for ever."

 

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