Two renowned male pastors in Taiwan shared the unspoken voices of "male chauvinists", giving women some answers to the questions upsetting them for a long time.
Rev. Gordon Huang, founder of KUA Global and senior pastor of 101 Church, and Rev. David Yu, principal officer of Good TV USA ministries, had a talk broadcast on the platform of KUA Global, a global mission ministry.
Rev. Huang has been married for 30 years with four children, and Rev. Yu for 18 years with three children, aged 16, 12, and 8.
Yu said that it was easy for men to offend others. "Staying with his wife or girlfriend, not very good at complimenting, a man might affront her." Then Yu shared his own experience. Once, his wife wore a nice cape, but when asked if she was good-looking, he replied, "Beautiful, are you going to be an actor in Star Wars?"
Rev. Huang shared that there were very big differences between men and women. "A conflict starts when you can't understand why your partner reacts in this way, or even think that the other one does it on purpose."
Huang shared how men and women think differently. Compared to the operation of a computer, a woman can “run” a dozen or twenty windows at the same time. With several windows open in a man’s brain, a crash might be triggered. This means that women can do many things at the same time.
Some wives may complain about their husbands, "Why don't you answer when I ask you?", "Why don't you express yourself?", "Why are you absent-minded when talking to you, as if you are not here?" Gordon said that their husbands might be thinking of other things or stressed.
He also explained that men tended not to express themselves under great pressure. The more stressed they were, the less they reacted. When women encounter stress, they discuss it or share it with their husbands and friends. Unlike that, men try to solve problems by thinking and speaking out after thinking carefully.
Huang suggested that wives give their husbands some time, especially when the husband comes home after a long day of work. They needed a little time to settle or relax, and then they could share the things with their wives, he added.
Rev. Huang also shared that when men discussed things, they liked to focus on the general direction, while women differently paid more attention to details.
Sometimes, wives asked their husbands what they did when they were out and what they had talked about, but husbands often gave a simple answer, "There is nothing special".
Wives often feel frustrated at such times, thinking that their husbands might just be reluctant to tell them. But the pastor said, "You have to know that in most cases, men aren’t interested in such details." This is because men and women fix their eyes on different things.
- Translated by Abigail Wu
